Support Affinity Mentoring on Giving Tuesday!

What is #GivingTuesday?

#GivingTuesday is a global day of giving fueled by the power of social media and collaboration. Celebrated on the Tuesday following Thanksgiving (U.S.) and the widely recognized shopping events Black Friday, Small Business Saturday and Cyber Monday, #GivingTuesday kicks off the charitable gifting season when many people make holiday and year-end donations.

What is #GRgives on #GivingTuesday?

#GRgives on #GivingTuesday is a city-wide campaign to raise funds, find volunteers and build awareness for local nonprofits. Designed to create a movement around #GivingTuesday in Grand Rapids, #GRgives helps nonprofits band together — promoting one resource for all to share their donation and volunteer opportunities, and one place for our community members to find all the ways they can give.

The goal of #GRgives on #GivingTuesday is to celebrate generosity and encourage community members to donate time and money to one of the over 3,000 nonprofits here in Grand Rapids.

Did you know?

You don’t have to be a world leader or a billionaire to give back. #GRgives is about ordinary people coming together to do extraordinary things. In a study by YouGov, 38% of Millennials planned to participate in #GivingTuesday 2015 compared to 39% for Black Friday and 39% for Cyber Monday, showing Millennials were just as interested in giving as spending.

#GRgives celebrates generosity by providing people with an opportunity to give more, give smarter and give great. #GRgives on #GivingTuesday unites charities, corporations, small businesses, and individuals to show our community that we give as good as we get.

We THANK YOU for your continued investment in Affinity Mentoring! Click the link below to donate on this #GivingTuesday and help kick off our year-end campaign!

https://affinitymentoring.kindful.com/?campaign=1278869

Celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month at Affinity Mentoring: Keyla

Each year from September 15 to October 15 we observe Hispanic Heritage Month at Affinity Mentoring. Hispanic Heritage Month is an annual celebration of the diverse and significant contributions of Hispanic and Latinx individuals and communities to the country’s history, culture, and society. This time provides an opportunity for our supporters from various backgrounds to learn about and appreciate the rich heritage, traditions, art, music, and achievements of Hispanic and Latinx Americans, and it serves as a platform for promoting cultural diversity and understanding within our community.

Over the next few weeks, Affinity will be highlighting stories from our staff, board, and mentors about what Hispanic Heritage Month means to them. We continue our series today by celebrating Keyla Araujo, Site Coordinator for Affinity Mentoring.

“I am from the Dominican Republic, I moved to the United States when I turned 7 years old. For me, it has always been important to remember and celebrate where I came from. I love my culture, the music, the food, and the people. I celebrate my culture alongside my husband and kids daily by speaking Spanish and sharing dishes typical of my homeland as well as enjoying our music, Merengue. During Hispanic Heritage Month, we celebrate the beautiful mosaic that is “La Comunidad Latina”. One thing we do around this time is gather at our church and celebrate the different countries that make up our congregation. We celebrate our uniqueness along with our similarities through the sampling of dishes from each country as well as dressing in our “Trajes Tipicos”. It’s a fun time where we share our heritage with the next generation, teaching them that our roots run deep and are nothing to be ashamed of but celebrated!”

Celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month at Affinity Mentoring: Yanitza

Each year from September 15 to October 15 we observe Hispanic Heritage Month at Affinity Mentoring. Hispanic Heritage Month is an annual celebration of the diverse and significant contributions of Hispanic and Latinx individuals and communities to the country’s history, culture, and society. This time provides an opportunity for our supporters from various backgrounds to learn about and appreciate the rich heritage, traditions, art, music, and achievements of Hispanic and Latinx Americans, and it serves as a platform for promoting cultural diversity and understanding within our community.

Over the next few weeks, Affinity will be highlighting stories from our staff, board, and mentors about what Hispanic Heritage Month means to them. Kicking off the series is our very own Yanitza Valdez, Burton Site Coordinator.

“I am a proud Mexican and Puerto Rican individual. Hispanic Heritage Month for my family and myself is an ongoing celebration/lifestyle. We make sure to keep our culture alive by embracing our food, language/accent, and authenticity of our roots and backgrounds. This month is a reminder that there is beauty in every spice, music style, tradition, and language. I am honored to be a walking portrayal of who I am.”

Affinity Honors Black History Month

Black History month is a time of acknowledging historical leaders, (s)heroes, and chain-breakers. We pause to recognize the undeniable strength, courage, fear, faith, and innovation it took for them to fight for everyone’s future. The impact and sacrifice of Ruby Bridges, Mary McLeod Bethune, Madam C.J. Walker, W.E.B. Dubois, and the list continues. We honor our past and share, in hope, with the trailblazers of our present.

Just short of 5 decades ago–two generations ago (the era of our grandparents)–black women in leadership was unheard of. In most cases illegal. If not for the (s)heroes of our past, the picture before you would be but a blur in a black woman’s imagination.

Today’s Black Leaders are agents of change constantly pushing against stigmas, laws, prejudices, to name a few. Black leadership requires sacrifice and willingness to make an impact for the betterment of everyone’s future. It is challenging the status quo, proving to community members your eligibility to overachieve, and not being afraid to make your own table. Black leadership is being legacy focused, breaking generational curses, and marching against unjust generational laws. It’s being strong for generations of young leaders watching you now and those who will read about you in the future. It’s an infinite amount of stepping up the plate, and eradicating challenges, and we meet each challenge with grace.

The road to progress is continuous and the legacy lasts for generations. I’d love to grab coffee at (black coffee shops) and chat with you about it sometimes! 

What history are you choosing to make today? In the next five decades what story will people read about you? #BlackWomanMakingHistory #BlackHistoryMonth #AffinityMentoring

2022 DEI Training Series Reflections

May 11, 2022 | By Cassandra Kiger

As part of our 2021 Community Listening Project we asked the public if we should provide extra training for mentors related to diversity, equity, and inclusion topics specific to mentoring.  Ninety-two percent of respondents said that it was either important, or very important for our organization to provide this (page 4), so we complied! 

If you’re not completely sure how putting time and resources into DEI work relates to mentoring, and us fulfilling our mission and vision for Affinity, we love learning with you! Check out the extensive research we have been conducting to make sure we facilitate amazing mentoring in this recent blog. We are grateful for the Steelcase Foundation whose grant has made it possible for this training to be free and widely available for AM partners, staff, mentors, and board members. 

Anti-Racism Training Series

In February, March, and April of 2022 Affinity Mentoring facilitated a three tiered training (levels 101, 201, and a community panel) focused on Anti-Racism in Education and Mentoring. We had 71 total attendees at these three, free training sessions, in addition to three expert trainers and 5 panelists. 

DEI 101 Training: Our trainers included Vanessa Jimenez, Founder/CEO of Mezcla Mosaic Collaborative and Marlene Kowalski-Braun, GVSU Associate Vice President for Enrollment Development Deputy Inclusion and Equity Officer for our 101 training. They facilitated a brave, healthy, inquisitive space for individuals to begin thinking about how other’s racial life experiences might be different from our own, and why it matters in education and mentoring. They invited participants to engage in critical reflection about foundations of DEI work, including defining diversity, equity, inclusion, and intersectionality both personally and organizationally. They helped participants develop an understanding of social identity, white supremacy, implicit bias, and microaggressions and how they shape a person’s experience of power, privilege, and oppression both individually and organizationally. Lastly, we discussed our personal and collective responsibility to keep ourselves and each other accountable to anti-racist work, especially in mentoring. 

DEI 201 Training: Christine Mwangi, CEO and Founder of Grounded In Equity, President and CEO of Be A Rose, member of the Affinity Mentoring Board of Directors, and KDL Director of Fund Development, led our 201 training. We dove deeper together into how race impacts education in our community, and the individual and community-level steps that we can take to support all students succeeding. Christine helped us define and understand specific terms and ideas when discussing the racial achievement gap in our local schools, including redlining and its lasting effects on school systems. We discussed systemic outcomes that disproportionately affect students of color within the academic sector, and how individuals can help make a positive impact through interactions with students and mentees. Below are a list of excellent video resources that Christine shared with us. 

Videos:

DEI 301 Training: Our third training for this year was actually a panel discussion with local experts on DEI, education, and mentoring who helped us take the things we learned in our previous two trainings, and understand them more fully in Grand Rapids and Wyoming. Our panel included Kyle Lim of the Urban Core Collective, Rafael Castanon of Health Net of West Michigan (and AM mentor), Alex Kuiper of Godfrey-Lee Public Schools, Brandy Lovelady Mitchell of the Michigan Education Association, and Erika VanDyke of the Urban Core Collective (and an AM mentor).

Mentors, staff, and partners were invited to submit questions to the panel ahead of time. Some of our key questions and take always from the nearly two hours of discussion included:

  • We learned about institutional racism, redlining, and other systems that make racism a part of our schools. Sometimes it feels like the problems are so big that there is very little we can do about them. Is that true? 
    • Panelist responses: We need to remember that progress is not linear, and we need to adapt to changes so that we keep moving forward. Racism is meant to exhaust and paralyze use; when issues are this complex, remember to focus on students, families, and communities and their needs. The work is worth it, because racism continues to hurt real people, and we cannot move at the same pace that the resistance is moving; we have to work faster if we actually want to make change. We need to imagine the future we want to live in and begin shaping it, even if we can’t fully see it yet. Never forget that system level change can start with voting! Vote for people who will make the changes you want to see. 
  • Is there any work being done already in Grand Rapids to help make our schools anti-racist? 
    • Panelist responses: Challenge your school board and the schools executive cabinet to make sure that they are engaging in real DEI work! You can send them letters, and attend school board meetings (even if you don’t have students attending that school), and the Urban Core Collective can help you prepare letters and statements; they are also helping to organize parents/caregivers, and you can contact betsaida@uccgr.org if you want to participate. 
  • What are ways that we can start conversations about race with children and students without scaring them?
    • Panelist responses: Let discussions be organic and student-led, and never engage in conversations with your mentee because you want to, but let them lead so that you don’t cause extra harm. Acknowledge when you don’t know the answer. You can discover the answer alongside students and mentees, and even ask your Affinity Site Coordinator to help you find resources to do that. 
    • Always validate student emotions and feelings, and ask them open-ended questions, and provide them with clarifying statements to help them process their own thoughts and feelings. Model to them by doing your own mirror work and showing them that it is healthy to learn new things. 
  • Mentors: what is something that you have learned about your mentee’s culture from mentoring?
    • Panelist (and attendee) answers: Find out what your mentee is passionate about, and let that lead your conversations and learning! As they get more comfortable, they will be excited to share, and feel safe to share more intimate information, like their culture, with you. 
  • How can we encourage mentees to embrace their own culture?
    • Panelist answers: Model this behavior to your mentees by talking about your own life experiences and culture, and then inviting your mentee into the conversation. 
    • Use diverse books and resources in the mentor centers to talk about different cultures, and find resources that match your mentee’s culture and invite them to be proud about it. 
    • Make sure to connect the micro level work with the macro level work; we won’t need to help students “rediscover” or share their cultures and experiences if we fight against the systems that make it hard for them to share those things naturally. By improving the whole system, we make this easier and healthier for each student!
DEI and Anti-Racism Resources

Some resources and reading that panelists recommended included:

Lastly, we were able to share some resources with all of our participants that Affinity Mentoring has been developing to help give mentors and partners more resources to continue learning and growing together with each other and their mentees. We highly encourage you to check out and use these resources, and talk to your Affinity Mentoring team members for more learning opportunities!

2022 Community Listening Project

As we close out this 2021-2022 mentoring year, we will be publishing our full 2022 Community Listening Project results showing that:

  • 85.2% of respondents tell us that it is very important or important that we “publicly support groups of people who are dismissed or unsafe in our community”,
  • 85.9% of respondents tell us that it is very important or important that we put time and resources into “finding more diverse mentors”, and
  • 80.8% of respondents tell us that it is very important or important that we “provide yearly diversity training for mentors”. 

Based on this, and the overwhelmingly positive attendance and feedback from this year’s trainings, we will continue to provide new training series each year, giving mentors and partners opportunities to learn about key areas of identity development for students, and how it relates to creating and maintaining an amazing mentoring program with short and long term student benefits. Our 2022-2023 mentoring year DEI training topics will focus on gender identity and sexual orientation. We promise to continue listening to you and your needs, and making decisions for our programming based on the most up to date, peer-reviewed research on how to support students and fulfill the mission and vision of Affinity Mentoring to the best of our ability.